Love is a simple sweet piece of 'BARFI'. Let it be!

2 years or 5 years from now i want to be able to wear this label, i want to drive this car, i want my husband to take me for romantic vacations to new places every year, to take me out to fancy dinners every now and then, to surprise me on and off....for a normal girl,my age,the wishlist is 'Draupadi's saree',you keep tugging at it and it just never ends.
 We want a job that gets us designer labels and a luxury car.That's still fine.But where the irony starts is that we want a man who can fund expensive holidays every year and then we want him to be the 'Shahrukh Khan' of romance as well. And then we wanna be in love,all of us do and that too desperately.
So girls, when you re looking for a guy,it ll only happen with the luckiest of us that a candidate satisfies both the criteria.So what do you do in a situation otherwise?
You meet a guy who is rich and you know he can fulfill all your luxury needs but he is not SRK.You do all you can or if luck favours you,you end up in a relationship with him.Now you sulk and complain to him that he is not 'romantic' .The poor guy starts bringing you flowers,takes you out for dinners even though that's not his nature (probably because he does'nt have time from earning the big bucks for you! Damn when will all you bollywood freaks understand that SRK gets paid for doing all that mushy stuff!) but he does his best to find his happiness in your's.Although i know the sulking never ends but still, as an end result you have a tamed boyfriend or husband,you love or pretend to love.
Now let's consider the opposite situation, you meet a guy, he sweeps you right off your feet, he is practically SRK !!! It's so rosy,it's a dream come true! You feel you live in a movie. Chair-pulling, door-opening, flower-sending,chocolate-bringing,song-singing Casanova who has come right out of Mills&Boons.You feel you've hit the love jackpot.There's no surpassing your love story in the world.You feel you could spend all your life without eating,sleeping or working ;just sitting hand in hand with him. But then DING DONG reality strikes.He does'nt earn enough to give you a luxurious life or maybe not even enough to give you a basic normal life. Now what? Here's what mostly happens.The fellow is so much in love with you by this time,you manage to convince him to work like a labourer or give up what he loves, to do something BIG and earn you BIG BUCKS. Yes, i have seen cases where the girl chooses to work hard like a labourer too
 to make ends meet but that's little lesser. At least, in India financial earnings is mostly a judgement criteria for the male, when it comes to matrimony. So finally the poor fellow ,who does'nt wanna lose you, sacrifices his interests and does whatever he can to earn the big bucks. Again you have a tamed fellow you again love or pretend to love.And mind you,here the sulking gets worse because the poor guy sweats out so hard all day, he does'nt find the time to get flowers and stuff and now the very well known line gets thrown at his face "You're not the same anymore''.
In either case you change something about the person and still you dont feel the magic. Watching the movie 'Barfi' just reinforced in me today what i always believed. Love is what happens, not something you do. Is'nt love all about acceptance? Since when did love become about wanting? Love is a feeling, not a desire. Even the mere thought of having that person or possessing that person is not love-that's a want, a need or a desire. Love is just what you feel for that person - and just that. Full stop. Nothing more, nothing less. Rest is all what we attach with love and then get jumbled up in ourselves.
Jhilmil (Priyanka Chopra) just flows with the stream of love that originates in her heart and she ends up taken care of. Involving our brains,our emotions and all the jing bang leaves nothing of the origin that was love. This is shown through the 'wise' girl Ileana's character, Shruti, who gives up her love for worry about her future and still ends up unhappy. On the other hand, Jhilmil does'nt have the capability to expect all the lovey dovey cliche' stuff out of her lover and just loves him for who he is to her.
The movie left me thinking that if two people who lack some basic abilities can live their life so happily by finding love in each other, where is the issue with normal people like us? Is it that we tend to let our stupid expectations or our worries rule us and complicate the beautiful things like love that God plants in our hearts?
Since we have much more than is required to be happy, we do not value the Creation's gifts in our lives. Jhilmil and Barfi could find extreme joy in spitting watermelon seeds on a glass whereas Shruti could not smile even in a bungalow,covered from head to toe in  riches. Such vast difference because when love knocked on Shruti's door,she let her brain conquer but Jhilmil just went flowing with her heart .

FIRST THINGS FIRST

At my work as an intern at a government dental hospital,each day at work is a challenge where different situations present themselves, where a young intern's learning of 4 years is put to test. It is the best platform to analyse oneself as to how far the education we have got is useful in developing our clinical skills.
I am through with almost half of my internship period and all this while i was really focused on perfecting the jobs that i should be knowing in order to be able to practice as a dentist. I would always think to myself that whether or not i pursue dentistry further, if i have a degree in my hand, it means i am trained in all the work a BDS graduate should know.
                        Hence, i take my fillings, extractions, root canals and everything i can learn very seriously. For me, internship is a period of extensive learning and experience that we will find very hard to gain later on since we have very senior and highly experienced faculty to guide us. I have seen many others sharing the same opinion as me, in this regard. It is really good to see and hear of so many students and interns so sincere towards their profession. Now taking this into notice, one could feel very satisfied with the scenario. And I particularly was pretty satisfied with my sincerity UNTIL YESTERDAY.
                        I am posted in the Oral Surgery department right now. It is one department i am really fond of since my 3rd year. Extractions has been my favourite things so far. So i was really enjoying it. I had set a target for myself to acquire perfection in closed extractions and also learn open extractions and few other procedures if allowed. But yesterday i got the chance to see two cases of Medical emergencies in the clinic.
Two patients went unconscious and our senior faculty members dealt with them perfectly. They immediately diagnosed one as a case of syncope and the other as a mild epileptic seizure. And as far as i along with other interns are concerned, I admit we could not tell the difference. I felt really worried. I thought, if i cannot identify the kind of emergency, how will i manage it.
                      We have always had ''Management of Medical emergencies'' as an essential part of our course. So i am not complaining or blaming anything or anybody but the fault lies on both sides. I'm sure just like me everyone prepared this topic very well for the exam and wrote the answer beautifully. But what use is the education that cannot be applied. I felt at a loss of knowledge in that situation. I also realise that my seniors are highly experienced and have handled lots of such cases, which is why they were so prompt and perfect in responding and saving the patient's life. I know if i acquire that experience i can be the same but my point is for a thing as big as saving someone's life can't our education system employ some more programmes? Can't we have a programme for management of medical emergencies as part of the BDS course? In fact not just BDS but any health related field so that in such cases or in any other situation or place we can have a full fledged and bigger trained team for the management of medical emergencies.
                        Although the topic is very much part of the course and i am sure just like my college, everywhere else too the seniors lay much stress on it, a thing as delicate as this requires much more training and much more preparedness.
                        There should be programmes for training not just in handling emergencies at the dental office but at any place.As long as we have to do without such a programme in our course, I suggest all the students to please take this topic seriously and actually learn about it not just to pass an exam but thinking that it could help you save a life someday. Make sure you read your texts well to be able to diagnose and then to manage it and then when you come to the clinics and then come across such cases, never lose the chance to see how the seniors handle it.
                          In a nutshell, with all due respect to the fillings,extractions, root canals, dentures,implants;
training for medical emergency management is the thing requiring utmost priority for learning dentists.

3 IDIOTS!!!

finally saw the really really popular movie...after returning empty handed from the ticket counter 3 days in a row...what i think is that despite a few over-filmy scenes(eg-the delivery by non professionals using a vaccum cleaner!!!) the movie manages to send across a really meaningful message to the masses....India's education system is doing no good to anyone...i'm sure most of you will agree with me when i say that in our system the actually smart and intelligent students are just pushed back to the last benches..the reason being that priority is not given to talent or passion but competition rather cut-throat competition...parents' and the teachers' pressure leaves the students classified into two groups-either the 'Chatur Ramalingams' or the 'idiots'...M more than thankful to the movie makers but have my doubts that the people who actually need to be inspired would ever even watch it. Most of our "Viruses" don't even know what a movie hall looks like from inside.Sadly enough,the maximum the movie will do is gratify all the mediocres about their grades and maybe the parents will pressurise the children less on being in the rat race.For the movie to serve its real purpose,i suggest the Indian Government pass a law requiring all heads of institutions esp. the "viruses" to watch it.